Grief | Grieving | Death of a Child

The Promise of Spring

by Lana Golembeski

It is yet another cold blustery day in Minnesota.
As I look out onto the two feet of snow,
I wonder if spring will ever come.
In my eyes, it looks impossible.
How can spring come?
All I can see is snow
and all I can feel is the cold.
And yet, despite all of that,
I know that spring WILL come…
no matter how difficult it is to comprehend at the moment Read the rest of this entry »

Grieving isn’t cut and dried; everyone will respond a little differently. For those of us who have lost a loved one either because of age or unexpectedly through accident or disease, grieving manifests itself in different ways and can take months to years to finally come to terms with their death.    Read the rest of this entry »

Why are you not moving on?

I am asked “why are you not moving on?
It is over a year since your daughter had gone?”

These words hurt me and tear me apart
There is no end to the grief in my heart!

“Your tomorrow will soon be filled with joy
When you have a grandchild, a girl or a boy” Read the rest of this entry »

Just last March my 48 year old daughter, mother of 5 young girls died of a cerebral hemhoridge.My older sister and 2 of my husbands brothers came over and stayed in our house for 3 weeks to help us in our grief. It did wonders. The day that they left I really broke down. I don’t feel like leaving the bedroom, I read a lot and watch tv, no cooking, neither my husband and I are hungry much. I let messages accumulate on the telephone. Read the rest of this entry »

My niece, suzanne, gave birth Monday, May 12, 2008 to a 6′8″ little boy. The baby was still born. Her pregnancy was fine and she had been to the doctor the previous friday. Baby’s heart beat was strong and she discussed inducing labor with her doctor. They scheduled it for Saturday, May 17th. On Sunday she started to feel not so well and put a call into her doctor. She was given an appt. for the next morning. During her visit they were not able to hear a heartbeat so they did an ultrasound and discovered there was no longer any life in the baby. Read the rest of this entry »

Seventeen months ago our daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash.  Since that tragic accident we have walked with grief every day.  We have also become a GRGs — grandparents raising grandchildren.  My husband and I are the legal guardians of 16-year-old, fraternal twins.  Raising them is our new life mission — a sacred mission — and we will do our best.

We are trying to help the twins deal with their grief, move forward with life, and make new goals.  Clearing out our daughter’s house, the house she and the kids loved so much, has been a heartbreaking experience.  Our grandchildren packed some items and, after that, they didn’t want to go to the house.  Their home had been a happy place, a place filled with love and laughter. Read the rest of this entry »

I had two pregnancies before so I knew how things should be. From the beginning of my third however, I felt something wasn’t right. I constantly feared that something would go wrong. I even asked my mom if she had ever lost a baby, even though I had never even thought to ask before. I was 28 weeks pregnant and we were at the grocery store when I realized that he had not moved that day. After some thought, I knew that he had not moved the day before. I knew something was wrong. I called the doctor’s office, and they asked if anything happened that could have changed things. I told them I fell twice the week before but I didn’t hit my stomach. They told me to go to the ER and get checked out. If all was well, I would be out in an hour or two. My mom picked up our other two boys, aged 2 and 4. Read the rest of this entry »

Hi Gloria -
Archive is such an incredible technology…..and your websites and shows comfort so often and you are a gift to bring this to the cyberspace airwaves when the pain and grief get so overwhelming.  The listening to talking is singularly more comforting for me who crave talk and connection and was used to being verbal all day long and with people in my everyday norm. Read the rest of this entry »

Today we think of each of you who have sustained a loss this year and in years past. We wish comfort and peace to each of you who have lost your mother or your child to death.

We especially honor and send love to those mothers who have lost sons and daughters in war. There are no words to express the grief we feel along with you.

But this is also a day for you to celebrate you. Be gentle with yourself as you let the memories flow. Find things you can do to busy your mind and, if you can, let the sadness rest just for today and remember the love.

 Dear Mothers,

I pray for a peaceful and happy Mothers Day for my mother and all those mothers out there who have had a child die.  May all of you take comfort in knowing that despite the fact that your child is no longer here, you remain forever their mothers and you were wonderful mothers while your children were on this earth.  A mother holds her child’s hand for awhile, but their heart forever.  Mom, thanks for being a great mother and for showing me that despite losing Scott, you somehow were able to continue to love and support your remaining daughters.  I know Scott remains forever in your heart and in your life.