Thoughts on losing a child…more than 3 years later
By Lana Golembeski -
After more than 3 years after the death of my only child, I sit and reflect on that loss. The tears do not come every day like they did before. The pit in my stomach has healed…or at least it appears to have healed. On the outside, I appear to be whole [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article X
By Susan Moss -
How does the grieving person cope with the loss? Carefully, I would say. We are advised to make no decisions for the first year. That may not be possible for some of us. For me, it was okay. Actually I did not make financial decisions for three or four years. I am [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article IX
By Susan Moss –
When I entered the grief process, I knew absolutely nothing. I was a clean slate. And, as I began to read and study this process called grief, I learned things that helped me cope with some of the behavior I saw in my late husband just prior to his death.
To my [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article VIII
By Susan Moss -
Grief is a lonely process. It is a road that is traveled single file. Time alone cannot heal the wound. There is no such thing as simply tying a knot and holding on. Grief is an active process. We get through grief by doing “grief work.” We must work at becoming whole [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article VII
By Susan Moss -
As the grieving person moves through the grief process, the wheels are set in motion which will eventually lead to the release of the loved one. That, I believe, is when acceptance arrives.
One day I realized the bearable times had grown so long that I spent literally hours without thinking about my [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article VI
By Susan Moss –
We reach a point in this grief recovery process where we want to find ourselves, or decide who we really are. We have stumbled around in a quagmire of emotions, been weighed down with depression, dealt with countless unfamiliar responsibilities from finding a job, to relocating, to changing the deed on [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article V
By Susan Moss –
As the grieving person works through the grief process, we wonder how long will it last. We want to awaken-who am I kidding, we would even love to sleep through the night. We would like to awaken and find we had been in a dream, a nightmare of sorts. But it [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article IV
By Susan Moss -
The grieving individual deals with a variety of emotions, some that seem to be unfamiliar. They flood in like waves on the shore. One moment we feel like all is well, and in the very next breath we are a basket case. We deal with envy, fear, bitterness, resentment, guilt, helplessness, loneliness, [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article III
By Susan Moss –
Grief has been described in many ways. I suppose each of us must introduce the heartbreak and fear-yes fear, to our minds in such a way that we can accept it. If we do not allow the emotional pain that is necessary to finish the grief work, we will not find [...]
My Story of the Journey Through the Grief Process – Article II
By Susan Moss -
Learning how to cope with my loss forced its way to the top of my to-do list. I had to do something and quickly. I slept in two hour naps, did not know if I ate lunch or not. Hated to put gas in my car, and when I could not stand [...]
