Grief | Grieving | Death of a Child

My mom was very sick but young and we didn’t except her to go so soon. i miss her so much she was my best friend i could talk to her about anything. and even if she didn’t always like the topic of conversation she always sat there patiently trying to give me advice no matter what. it didn’t really matter how bad of a mood i was in or how sad i was all i had to do was talk to her and everyhting seem to be ok. i guess i just assumed she would always be there. loosing her was one of the hardest things i had to deal with. I say one because a couple of weeks after she passed away i lost my son. i was 37 weeks preganat i went in for an ultra sound and the doctor said that his heart was no longer beating. i was devastated i couldn’t breathe and felt like nothing could ever bring the joy back in to my life. i have alot of anger that i can not deal with i dont know where its coming from or what to do with it. My relationship with my husband is suffering. sometimes i feel so depressed i dont want to get out of bed. Although i know that i have to i have a beautiful little boy who is 3 years old and is very open about his feelings about missing his baby brother and grandmother. how do i keep moving forward? i hate   Read the rest of this entry »

Thank you friend for always being there for me
And seeing what I saw and did not see

I am blessed to have you by my side
At good times, bad times, and when I lost my child

You have accepted the person I became
And realized that your friend can not be the same!

Friend, you have never asked me to change
And never considered any of my behaviors strange

You have decided to walk with me at my pace
And understood that no one can take Samar’s place

You respected my daily sorrow and tears
And appreciated my strength in facing my loss and fears

You wished me patience and serenity of the soul
And prayed that God helps me survive living with my hole

You even joined me in appreciating the sunrise
This significant act dear friend is not a surprise!

Although the burden you carry is not small
You never shy away from listening to me, not at all

Thank you for always tolerating my talk
About my beloved Samar, since the days she started to walk

Although seeing me immersed in grief is painful to you
You are always there for me, the friend I knew

With you dear friend, I will always feel free
To talk about my loss at any stage or degree

I am grateful that you do not push me to move along
And acknowledge my pain and listen to my song

Thank you dear friend for all the support
And God bless you, for the comfort you brought
Randah R. Hamadeh, 2007, Copyright©
Written in loving memory of her daughter,
Samar Ahmed Al Ansari (4/4/88-4/9/06)

(www.samaralansari.com)

HEALING THE GRIEVING HEART
Finding Hope in the Holidays after the Loss of Both Parents
Hosts:  Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley
With guest:  Lisa Peacock
December 27, 2007
G: Hello, I’m Dr. Gloria Horsley with my co-host
H: Dr. Heidi Horsley.
G: Each week, Heidi and I welcome you to Healing the Grieving Heart, a show of hope and conversation with those who’ve suffered the loss of a loved one and for healthcare professionals who work in this most difficult field.  As always the message is others have been there before you and made it, you can, too.  You need not walk alone.  This show is pre-recorded so you will not be able to call in but these shows are all archived on our blog, wwwthegriefblog.com as well as www.thecompassionatefriends.org websites.  All the shows can be downloaded on iTunes and the transcripts are accessible on www.thegriefblog.com.  Well, good morning, Heidi. Read the rest of this entry »

DECEMBER 27, 2007 – FINDING MEANING AFTER THE LOSS OF BOTH PARENTS:  LISA PEACOCK.  Lisa Peacock was touched by trauma at a young age.  In 1987 at age 9 Lisa suffered from the effects of a plane crash that took her father’s life.  Then at 19, Lisa suffered the traumatic loss of her mother in a car accident.  She dealt with depression, anxiety, guilt, and anger.  While coping with her situation, she felt a calling to help others that were suffering from trauma.  In 2002, The Peacock Foundation was founded. Read the rest of this entry »

Are you wondering if the pain will ever cease, if the emptiness will ever leave? Will life ever have meaning again? You may not think so now, but the answer to all three questions is an unqualified yes. And there are millions of people who can vouch for that fact.

But that does not mean you will be your old self once again. Nor does it imply that you will be somehow totally free from the anxiety of your loss experience. There are a constellation of variables that determine the intensity and the length of grief. They range from the type of death, number of secondary losses, and degree of emotional investment in the deceased to your coping behaviors, health, social support system, and expectations, to name just a few. Read the rest of this entry »

Our wishes for you during these days of Christmas are found in an old Christmas Carol. Our hearts sing out to you: 

We bring you tidings of comfort and joy.

Our hearts are with each of you during this season 

Drs. Gloria and Heidi