February 29th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
HALF OF A WHOLE FEELS LIKE ZERO
From THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter (Sourcebooks, Inc.;ISBN 1-932783-48-2) by Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T.
“The mental fog that had sheltered me emotionally during those first four months after my husband’s death is slowly, and painfully, beginning to clear. Coincidently, this occurs just as the world around me appears to need me to get out and on with my life. And so, I’m finding that this is an important time in my mourning because with my newfound awareness comes the need to take a stand, to “own” my grieving process. Sounds like I’m getting stronger? Yes, in some ways, but the reality is that sadness, crying and feeling lost are still very much a part of my day-to-day world. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 28th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
HEALING THE GRIEVING HEART
The Healing Power of Grief
Hosts: Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley
With guest: Dr. Marilyn Stolzman and Gloria Lintermans
February 28, 2008
G: Hello. I’m Dr. Gloria Horsley with my co-host
H: Dr. Heidi Horsley.
G: Each week, Heidi and I welcome you to Healing the Grieving Heart, a show of hope and conversation with those who’ve suffered the loss of a loved one and for health care professionals who work in this most difficult field. As always the message is others have been there before you and made it, you can, too. You need not walk alone. Our show today is prerecorded so we will have no call-ins, but you can contact Heidi and me through our blog, www.thegriefblog.com with questions or comments regarding the losses in your life. Don’t forget that these shows are archived on our blog www.thegriefblog.com as well as www.thecompassionatefriends.org websites. All these shows can be downloaded on Itunes and the transcripts are available to be accessed from our website www.thegriefblog.com. So if you’ve got friends and you particularly like a show and you’ve got friends or family members who don’t use a computer, download those shows and give them a printed copy of the show. Well, Heidi, how are you this morning? Read the rest of this entry »
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February 28th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
FEBRUARY 28, 2008 - THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: DR. MARILYN STOLZMAN AND GLORIA LINTERMANS: Los Angeles-based Dr. Marilyn Stolzman brings her wisdom and hands-on experience to her books, The Healing Power of Grief and The Healing Power of Love. She works as a bereavement counselor in private practice and is director of the non-profit Los Angeles-based organization H.O.P.E Unit Foundation for Bereavement, Loss and Transition. Gloria Lintermans is a former syndicated newspaper columnist, currently a freelance writer, author, and widow. She has hosted her own cable television show and radio program and is the author of The Newly Divorced Book of Protocol. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 28th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Note: This is the second of three articles excerpted from the book, The Healing Power of Grief. The authors are our guests on Healing the Grieving Heart on February 28. Thank you Gloria and Marilyn for making this wonderful book available to our readers. Drs. Gloria and Heidi.
From THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter (Sourcebooks, Inc.; ISBN 1-932783-48-2) by Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T.,
Beginning to Mourn
The earliest feelings of mourning include the initial shock (this can’t be happening), the denial of the reality, and feeling overwhelmed and numb. It is not uncommon to feel some loss of self-esteem and extreme vulnerability. Symptoms usually include a variety of internal complaints, a great deal of crying, insomnia, waking from sleep or not being able to fall asleep, feeling anxious, loss of appetite, possible sweaty hands and heart palpitations. You may also experience irritability, lack of patience, forgetfulness, distractibility and loss of concentration. Feelings of sadness and loneliness accompany feeling bewilderment. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 27th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Note: Our Guests for the Healing the Grieving Heart show this coming Thursday have graciously sent us exerpts from their new book. We will post them over the next few days. Thank you Gloria and Marilyn for making this wonderful book available to our readers. Drs. Gloria and Heidi.
From THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter (Sourcebooks, Inc.; ISBN 1-932783-48-2) by Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T.,
On May 22nd at 2:20 in the morning my husband died. As I was sleeping in an armchair by his side in the hospital, his nurse gently woke me with the words, “He’s gone.” Reaching over, I put my hand on his arm, stunned by the coldness of his skin. As my world shattered into a million fragmented pieces, I softly sobbed, my head falling slowly until it rested next to his on his hospital bed. After a devastating battle of two and a half years, the ups and downs of fighting disease, his body had finally given out. The fight was gone; we’d lost the war. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 26th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Years ago, I used to manage a retreat that focused on death and dying workshops. At one of these events, there were about 100 people. All of them had a close connection to loss. Some were hospice caregivers, some were families of terminally ill patients, some were patients near death and some had recently lost a loved one.
The retreat lasted ten days and most of it was held in silence. On the seventh day, the instructor informed me that he wanted to work with some people individually. Knowing my interest in humor and healing, he asked me to take the group over and do a session on that subject. Because of the gravity of the circumstances facing nearly everyone in the group, I was a bit apprehensive to discuss humor. But I did. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 23rd, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Dear Gloria and Heidi,
I am a new listener. I found your website and heard your first show a few weeks ago. It looks like you are doing mportant work.
Unfortunately, in the only interview I have heard (with your guest Rosemary Smith), I was hurt to hear the way you spoke of a tragic situation in which a family lost four children. Gloria said, “the son got on drugs and went berserk and shot them”. The choice of words and the way they were delivered sounded like the level of compassion that might be demonstrated by a 15-year-old boy talking to a room full of other 15-year-old boys. Read the rest of this entry »
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February 19th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
I need some help! My boyfriend has lost two of his children. His daughter was killed 11/15/05 in an automobile accident. She lived in NC at the time and lives in GA. A year and 14 days later 11/29/06 his 16 year old son died from complications of brain cancer. When I first met him he told me all about his children and what had happened, he seemed to want to get past the daily hurt and start living his life again. Yet he is not doing that. I feel that I have helped him all that I can by listening and sharing my own story with him, but he seems like he does not want to begin the healing process. What can I do I am desperate to find him some help.
Denice
Drs. Gloria and Heidi Respond
Dear Denice, Read the rest of this entry »
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February 18th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Dear daughter, I hope you know that you are a star
When you were alive and when you went afar
You continue to shine in so many people’s hearts
A star that keeps glowing after it departs
Precious daughter, I wish I could bring back yesterday
To tell you all what I wanted and yearn to say Read the rest of this entry »
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February 15th, 2008 . by The Grief Blog
Our deepest condolences go to the family and friends of those who died at Northern Illinois University yesterday. We know there are no answers to the question “why” when it comes to such tragic incidents and few words that can console those who mourn for their loved ones killed in that auditorium. Our hearts go out to you with love and compassion at this time.
Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley
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