A Sudden Death of a Healthy Man
Hi,
Ok i suppose I start by saying I lost my partner Michael on May 16th 2007 he was only 37 years old fit and healthy.I went to bed on that Tusday night late so Mick had been asleep for awhile then early hours Wednesday morning the twins woke me up they wanted a bottle so i got up to get them 1.On the way back to bed Mick passed me he went to the toilet and came back to bed.I was awake and he knew this but as soon as he got the covers up and got comfy I thought he started to snore so I wacked him and told him to stop snoring.Mick didnt answer me and the noise wasnt sounding to good so I jumped out of bed and turned the light on to find Mick having a seizure.I quickly ran out grabed my mobile and rang 000 at the same time grabing the maple syrup out of the fridge because Mick had type 1 diabities.I put some on my finger and put it around the inside of his lips, the seizures had stopped and he wasnt respondind to anything I cecked his breathing and found he wasnt breathing and had no pulse.I got ready to start cpr when the ambulance arrived.They worked on Mick for an hour and a half but nothing could be done he was gone.
His blood sugars were slightly high so that isnt what caused the seizure so I still dont know what killed him they say it can take up to 6 months here in australia. So from the time he got back into bed to the time he took his last breath was only 10 minutes.I miss him sooooooooo much and the hurt and pain is to much to bare at times, but i have to get up and do things because I have 1 year old twins and a 10 year old son to take care of.I love you Michael and will miss you forever a part of me died with you and until we meet again it will be lost for good.
Jody
Dear Jody – I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so sad. As I wrote earlier, we Moms have to carry on, even though we don’t want to. It’s ok-allow yourself time, there’s no time limit to grieve. It’ll be forever, as are the sweet memories-in time try to focus on those and hopefully they will out weigh the part of you that died. Take care- Beth
Dear Jody – I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so sad. As I wrote earlier, we Moms have to carry on, even though we don’t want to. It’s ok-allow yourself time, there’s no time limit to grieve. It’ll be forever, as are the sweet memories-in time try to focus on those and hopefully they will out weigh the part of you that you feel had died. Take care- Beth
Dear Jody – I feel your pain. I lost my husband, Ben, just after Thanksgiving dinner. First, we are turkey and all the fixings. Then he gets a bad headache and collapsed and died. I know the pain of such a sudden and unexpected loss. While there are no wonderful answers, I did find a book call “I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye. The emptiness that I feel inside is overwhelming. But I reach deep into the tremendous love that Ben gave me and use it to fill the hole in my heart. I hope you have friends to lean on. It is not easy for friends to see you in pain and accept that they can’t fix the problem. All they can do is to be there for you so you don’t walk this path alone. I wish you well. Mary
Dear Jody,
I am so sorry for you and for the anguish you feel over losing your husband suddenly. My son, Graham, died suddenly while jogging on April 18 of this year, no explanation iniatially but soon we found Cardiac Risk in the Young and over time found that although his heart and everything else was perfect, he died of Sudden Arrhythmia Death (Sudden Adult Death) which affects people in their teens and up to 40 years old. We found CRY and they helped us so much with every aspect. We live in the UK but you have SADS in the US. I have heard so many stories like yours at the CRY bereavement days. I hope that you find some moments of relief from your pain and grieving. I have spoken with one wife, whose husband was a footballer in England, and she had a small baby, I have also spoken with a mother of three children whose husband collapsed and died suddenly after returning from work. I hope you have family and friends around you who will listen and listen to you. If I can help, with any information etc. please feel that you can e-mail me at dunesinger@yahoo.co.uk. Suzanne
Dear Jodie,
I can relate to your grief. I just lost my husband on Sept 18, 2007, suddenly, to an unexpected illness-viral enciphilitis. He was also healthy prior. Now, I’m left with our very young daughters to raise. He was the world to us.He left behind a platoon of friends and family members that loved him so much. He was a caring, kind, selfless, father and husband. The shock of it all is incredible to me. One day we had a perfectly normal day, and next thing you know, he’s in a medically induced coma for next several weeks. No chance to say I love you again or even to say goodbye.
My 4 year old is just devastated and of course, troubled by his death. I am having a hard time talking about this with many people. And reading this blogsite is helping relate with other widows.
So, thank you all for listening.
Hi Jodie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I also loss my husband suddenly. On June 9th we had just said goodnight to one another and he complained of a headache. He went to the bathroom and took a couple of tylenol then came back to bed. Within a couple of minutes he complained about his headache, went into the bathroom and within a couple of minutes I hear a thud in the bathroom. I went into the bathroom and Larry had collapsed on the floor. I had no idea why he had collapsed, I called 911. They came quickly and took us to the hospital. He was in a coma for a day and a half. He died on June 10th 2007 of a massive brain hemerage. I still have such problems getting my head around the idea that he will never be here again. Sometimes I think I’m managing okay and then I start to cry and just can’t stop. I miss him so very much. It is so hard to lose someone who is heathy so suddenly. I am 41 and still find it hard to accept that I’m a widow. As difficult as it is to read of yours and others losses, it does help to know that we are not alone. Kim.
KIM I FEEL YOUR PAIN I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS OUR HUSBANDS ARE NOW IN PARADISE BUT I TRULY TRULY BELIEVE THEY GIVE US SIGNS THAT THEY ARE WITHUS…..unexplainable thngs happen sometimes but BELIEVE in your hearts that it is our husbands trying to show us that they are with us ,protecting us in spirit. THINK AGAIN and we will all realize there has been sighns of their love to us! SUSY