http://thegriefblog.com/grief/bereavement/grief/sometimes-you-need-to-cry/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:05:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 http://thegriefblog.com/grief/bereavement/grief/sometimes-you-need-to-cry/comment-page-1/#comment-52918 kathy Sat, 25 Oct 2008 05:50:35 +0000 http://thegriefblog.com/grief/grief/sometimes-you-need-to-cry/#comment-52918 I hadn't cried very much in my life, went to see a counselor while I was working through a divorce of 20 years, found myself to be shut down emotionally and a hardened woman, from not dealing with the pain...Crying. I'm not real comfortable with the whole thing, but I am slowly getting feeling back, in my heart. I have a ways to go, but I've started, not sure how much more crying I have to go, and I really hate getting started, but once I start, I allow myself to cry. I have cried in the shower, my favorite, in bed, when I go to bed and when I wake up, but when I really have a lot of pain to deal with, I have a very nice rug that I lay on and am free to cry deeply, when I know, it's not going to be short, and I get lost in the cry, I have cried as long as 3 hours, with the screaming. It's all inside, and if you don't release it, you are not the same person. Unfortunately, I'm afraid I still have a lot of crying to do, but each time I cry, I get closer to the person I should be. One day I'll be there, but I still have a ways to go. It didn't build up overnite, so it takes time to release all the hurt, anger and rage inside. I can tell the difference, I really can. A good site is the Ransomed Heart, try it out. I hadn’t cried very much in my life, went to see a counselor while I was working through a divorce of 20 years, found myself to be shut down emotionally and a hardened woman, from not dealing with the pain…Crying. I’m not real comfortable with the whole thing, but I am slowly getting feeling back, in my heart. I have a ways to go, but I’ve started, not sure how much more crying I have to go, and I really hate getting started, but once I start, I allow myself to cry. I have cried in the shower, my favorite, in bed, when I go to bed and when I wake up, but when I really have a lot of pain to deal with, I have a very nice rug that I lay on and am free to cry deeply, when I know, it’s not going to be short, and I get lost in the cry, I have cried as long as 3 hours, with the screaming. It’s all inside, and if you don’t release it, you are not the same person. Unfortunately, I’m afraid I still have a lot of crying to do, but each time I cry, I get closer to the person I should be. One day I’ll be there, but I still have a ways to go. It didn’t build up overnite, so it takes time to release all the hurt, anger and rage inside. I can tell the difference, I really can. A good site is the Ransomed Heart, try it out.

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