In memory of Rebecca and all of our deceased loved ones we light a candle.

In memory of Rebecca and all of our deceased loved ones we light a candle.

Dr. Heidi and Gloria

In two hours I will be lighting the “yahrzeit” candle. This, according to the Jewish calendar marks the eve of the 1 year anniversary of Rebecca’s death. This candle will burn for seven days. The unveiling service was held this morning at the cemetery and Rachel and I remained here in Cali. We have not come to accept the end of the mourning period as stated in Jewish tradition. We will get there when we get there. Unveiling translates into a few things, it’s religious significance is a “shedding” of our grief to join the “living” and become “normal again”. Nowhere are these rules written for a child, though. They are not written because the natural order of life does not include burying your children, and therefore, we will make our own rules as Rachel and I continue on our journey together. The practical meaning lies in the revealing of the headstone. This kind of drives it home and so I don’t have to explain it. I hope you will join me in lighting a candle tonight before sundown. I will light another one on the 27th just cause I’m making my own rules. And so another chapter begins.. Who among you can say that you did not meet Rebecca and know her to be deserving of at least a prayer tonight? I will be grateful if you do this. For those who have already..Thank you..I know who you are.. I love you and wish we could be together this week but for now we cross this threshold and next month we will celebrate her life with her friends, her family and most of all..the memories she left us with. No one prepared us for this, but I have to say, the event that shattered us has made us appreciate every little moment of every day and every one of you so much more, and we are all a little happier knowing Rebecca was part of our lives. Thanks to all. Rosanna