I know our Moms would really want us to be happy

From Sarah,

Dear Cindi
I lost my Mother April 4th 2009 of an apparent heart attack. Like you, I have no children of my own. My husband tries to be supportive and he lost his Mother over seventeen years ago but grieved very differently from me. In fact, although he said he was very close to his Mom there was little real emotion shown after her death. It has been over seven months since my Moms passing and in some ways I feel worse and hopeless. My husband keeps asking what I want to do for Thanksgiving , my only thoughts are sleeping all day or working at a soup kitchen.
He recommended going to his daughters house out of state. Well, I have an elderly Father that I primarily take care of and His daughter was never very close or nice before my Mom died. I want to let go of all of the regrets and resentments too. Before my Mom died I always cherished family and tried to be close with both my brothers and my husbands family , including them for holiday dinners and generally trying to establish relationships. We (my husband and I) were also very generous with everyone. When we had the chance to be close and come together as family everyone had an independent attitude. Even my brother and his wife (and my Moms only grandchild) chose not to stop by last Thanksgiving to instead spend the whole hoiday with his mother-in-law(and they were only a half hour away). That would have been my Moms last Thanksgivng with her family. Now I really don’t care what anybody does. I don’t hear too much from anyone anyway except my cousins, who are more like sisters, that live out of state. It’s a hard road and I am not sure where it is leading, my Mother was my life and now I feel very lost. Hope you find your purpose, I know our Moms would really want us to be happy, but it is hard to be so without them. Sarah