Please know that others are out there
Dear Judy
Your post made me cry. Something I hadn’t been able to do until now.
I hear you, I feel for you. Please know that others are out there. I am one of them.
My ex husband died a month ago of lung cancer at age 46. We were just divorced in January. It was his idea, not mine.
Even though I am the ex, the 28 years we were together cannot be erased.
I find myself seeing him as I am out. I know he is gone but I see people and think it is him. He left me for a co-worker 2.5 years ago but I don’t believe in the end that is what he had wanted.
The grief is overwhelming and as I struggle every day to be happy (what he wanted) I find myself such as you, finding it harder.
I don’t have any advice other then know that I care. I hope you have a good support system. I don’t. Everyone propped up the other woman and forgot that I was the wife. I was the one that had his children and lived with him for 28 years.
Find joy Judy. Find things that make you happy. Even if it is putting your sons shirt on and crying in bed. I havent even got a shirt from my ex. I have very few things. I do have his wedding ring though.
I hope it gets better for us both. I really do.
Find peace Judy
God bless
Kathy
