There is no answer to our grief
From Don –
There is no answer to our grief. It will never go away and it will always be painful. I lost my oldest son June 14th, 2009. I’m not handling it very well. I miss him so much. The pain is unbearable but I bear it. I have no desire to go on but I go on. You see for me, I can not quit to end my grief even though that is the only way it will end. My son left me with two beautiful granddaughters. He is counting on me to be there for them and I can not let him down nor can I let them down. I consider myself lucky. Many parents are not blessed with the gift that my son gave to me. I am not a religious man and neither was my son. But we knew love and we believed that something bigger than ourselves holds everything together. It is that lifeforce that I will call to, seeking solace for all of us who grieve and all of our loved ones who have passed over to the other side of consciousness.
Hi Don,
I am so sorry. I also lost my son just recently in Oct 09 he was 27, his birthday was just coming up on Nov 25th. The pain is sometimes so unbearable so much so, that in order to cope I tell myself that it hasn’t really happened. I know this is probably not healthy, but just for a few minute I can feel somewhat normal again. Whatever normal is at this point.
He also left two girls and while they were not his biologically children he considered himself their father. However they don’t live close by and if I don’t make the effort to keep in touch by calling to let them know that I am still here for them, I know that because of the distance and their young age I might lose them also. I know that my son would not want this to happen, so even if I don’t have the strength right now, I know that keeping this bond is very important for all of us.
I want to thank you for taking the time to write about yourself, it helps to know that I am not alone.