A Letter Asking for Sibling Support
May 29, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death of a Sibling, Q&A
Dear Gloria, I recently heard you speak at the Compassionate Friends group in Monterey. I thoroughly enjoyed your presentation. We lost our 34 year old daughter to colon cancer in November 2006. She has 2 sisters. Jenny, her 29 year old sister lives in Brooklyn–works in Manhatten. I am doing the footwork to find out if your daughter has a sibling support group that she conducts or recommends. Thank you for any information you may be able to provide. Shirley Kiatta
What a wonderful and thoughtful mother you are. I lost my 27 year old brother next month will be a year. I have gone to support groups trying to tell parents to remember the siblings are hurting too, and all I ever get is “It’s worse if it is a child.” I want to scream at them for belitteling my feelings. I loved my brother so much and it hurts so much that everyone expects me to be strong for my parents. I miss him just as much as they do, my daughter will never remember him - she is 3 now (2 when he died) so I know the love a parent feels for a child. If anything EVER happened to her I couldn’t stand it! I can’t stand it that my brother is gone, either…but again, no one seems to think siblings hurt as much. I apologize for ranting but I just wanted to say you are a very thoughtful and selfless mother to be concerned for your other children and not say you hurt worse than they do.