My Daughter Was Killed in the Most Disastrous Fire in Kentucky History
September 28, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Child, Q&A
I’m a 29 year mother from Bardstown,Ky. I recently lost my 3 year old daughter in a housefire on February 6th 2007. Her name is Dariyel Cyleigh Maddox. She was staying the night at her father’s house that night and the house caught on fire about 3:00am in the morning. There was 10 people who died in the house. No one got out. I got a phone call about 4:00am in the morning about the tragidy. At that moment I knew my daughter was gone forever! The fire was said to be the most disasterous in the history of Kentucky. We had to burey 10 bodies on February 10th 2007. It was the most hardest thing I’ll ever have to do in my life. I’ll never get over it. I’ll never be the same again. She was my best friend! She’s sadly missed! Just thought I would share my story with you.
Dear Carla,
We are so very sorry for your loss. It was, as you say, a tragic accident and a year is such a short time when it comes to grieving the loss of a child. We are glad you are sharing your story with us and we hope it gives you comfort to do so. There is nothing harder for a parent than having to bury her child and you are right in saying that it changes you forever.
If you have not discovered the group Compassionate Friends we encourage you to join them. In Kentucky they have chapters in Lexington and Frankfort and, if one of those is not too far, it could be very helpful for you. Each member has lost a child and they understand what you are going through. You can find them at http://www.compassionatefriends.org. If groups are not for you or if this is too far to drive, we recommend that you reach out to your family, church, and friends for support. We have found that the load of grief is lighter when it is not carried alone.
We invite you to listen on Thursday mornings to the radio show Healing the Grieving Heart You can find information about it and a link to it on the first page of http://www.thegriefblog.com You might also find a number of past shows that can give you help and comfort at http://thegriefblog.com/grief-grieving-death-of-a-child/
We are posting your story on The Grief Blog because we believe it will help others who have also lost a child.
Our blessings,
Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley
I am so sorry for your loss. Our beautiful children will forever be a part of our lives even when we don’t have them physically with us. Every day brings memories and thoughts of them. Our lives are forever changed because of them. I will never regret even one moment of my son’s life. What a precious gift we are given to become mothers. And what unimaginable loss and pain we experience when our child is no longer here with us. Keep remembering and loving your amazing little girl. I truly believe I will be reunited with my son in eternity but the wait is long and I miss him every day.
Sal